Body Positivity & Skinny Shaming

I want to take a moment to talk about the body positive movement and skinny shaming, as these two things have seemed to go hand in hand within the last few years. Skinny shaming is nothing new. It’s something that I have actually experienced my whole life. I’ve been called anorexic (although I’ve never had an eating disorder), and I’m always getting comments about how skinny I am, such as, “You need to put some meat on those bones.” Any time I go to a gathering where there is food involved, I can be sure that someone is going to check out my plate and make some unnecessary comment about my weight. I never really thought much about these things growing up because models in magazines were of similar size, and being skinny was considered the more desirable body type. Therefore, any negative comments I received were just brushed to the side.

The body positive movement really gained a lot of momentum within the past few years. The purpose of the movement is to get society to be more accepting of all body types, and I really think it’s working. You now see people being more confident and flaunting what they’ve got instead of trying to hide behind clothing. Magazines are also starting to feature more people of different sizes, instead of just one size. I think this is all terrific. I’ve always admired different body types, and I don’t think one size is better than another. Sometimes I even find myself getting a little jealous of curvy women because I think they look amazing.

My only issue with this movement is that some people feel the need to tear down one body type in order to build up another. Body positivity means being accepting of all body types, not just certain ones. Some people claim that skinny-shaming doesn’t exist, but any negative comments geared towards someone’s body can be detrimental to their self-esteem, so for myself and many others, skinny-shaming does exist. When people call you flat chested, say you have the body of a young boy, you look like a twig, etc., it exists. All of the comments over and over, and all of the memes spread around social media saying that “real women have curves” and “Zero isn’t a size” (despite it being my size) can be incredibly hurtful for a person to see. Thankfully I’m still confident in myself and my body, but someone else could see these things and really let it get to them. This is not okay.

Everyone has their own preferences and maybe you like one body type more than another (like how you might prefer blondes to brunettes or vice versa), but you don’t have to put down any one body type in order to make another one sound good. I want the body positive movement to continue on, but not at the expense of others.

23 thoughts on “Body Positivity & Skinny Shaming

  1. Agreed! I’m 19, 5″6 and I weigh 98 pounds. I’m about 30 pounds underweight. I’m just skin and bones. The thing is, I can’t gain weight if my life depended on it. I eat so much a day and people still make fun of me. Either I eat all day and people call me fat, or people see me and automatically assume I’m anorexic just because I’m skinny

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  2. This post is SO important. While I am not underweight, my body type is athletic and I do not have that much body fat, and get comments along the lines of ‘women shouldn’t have abs’/’women need to have hips and boobs not muscles’ which is just ridiculous because there isn’t a set thing a woman should ‘have’ – all of our bodies are so unique and should be allowed to thrive outside of societal frameworks! x

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    1. I think athletic body types are nice. I need to get back into my ab routines because I’ve been slacking. I’ve been thinking about starting to lift some weights too so I can just tone up my arms a little.

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  3. So much hell yes for this post! It’s so important and I agree whole-heartedly with everything you’ve said here. Skinny shaming definitely exists, and until people accept and embrace all body types without feeling the need to put down another it’s definitely still a problem. I’ve always been a size 6-8 and have had various comments from work colleagues and the like over the years surrounding being skinny.

    One work colleague once introduced me to a room as “This is Sophie, she doesn’t eat or drink” (even though I did) and another told me I had no boobs and seemed to think this was an acceptable thing to say in the workplace. Needless to say it really hurt my feelings and raised a whole wave of insecurities at the time. Like you luckily I’m at the stage in my life where I’ve embraced myself and feel confident in myself but these things shouldn’t be said in the first place and it’s so sad that people think it’s OK. I just hope one day in the near future people will realise it’s not okay to shame anyone for anything, least of all their body ❀

    Sophie | soinspo xo

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  4. I’ve definitely never been ‘too thin’ (more like average to curvy), but it’s always been so strange to me how other people are so concerned with how other people look. I really don’t pay that much attention, so I don’t really see why it matters to others either!

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  5. I completely agree with you.

    I have to say, I’ve always envied your metabolism. I’m 5’1. 145lbs, but classified as being
    “overweight” according to my BMI. I embrace it, because I love food (lol). Aside from the eating habits, my weight issues can also be blamed on my medical issues and birth control. My stomach bothers me, but I love the curves, I’m learning to be comfortable in my own skin. It’s all a love/hate relationship.

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  6. My Mother has always been a very skinny girl. In fact, she was so small she couldn’t have Us children naturally, because of her small frame, we just didn’t fit!

    I took after my fathers side and usually have a few more pounds then I should! Sometimes my mom will make comments about how difficult it is to gain weight, and I sarcastically respond with “oh, that must be rough”!

    Recently, I have thought more about it and it probably IS tough for her! I try to be more sensitive to her views even though sometimes it creates jealousy! Just because I wish I was skinny like her, doesn’t mean she doesn’t have problems too!

    Thank you for sharing this! It was really a great point of view about things that she has probably had to deal with her entire life, that I just honestly never thought about!

    Stop by MummaBugs Unite and visit for a few! We love new friends!

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  7. YES! This is so true. While I love the body positivity movement that’s going on, people need to remember that this encompasses ALL body types. I can’t count the number of times people have made comments that I should ‘eat a sandwich’ or just remarking that I’m cold because I have ‘no body fat’ (which is definitely not true). The bottom line is NOBODY has the right to comment on another persons body, regardless of their weight. Unless it’s with the intention of support and bringing someone up, people should keep it to themselves. We’re all fighting our own battles, and ALL women should have space to love their bodies and shouldn’t have to deal with the random judgements of outsiders.

    Susie |

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    1. Well said! I think people think it’s okay to comment on a skinny persons body because they think we shouldn’t care since our body type is considered “more admirable”, but like you said nobody should be commenting on another person’s body.


  8. HELL YES! I hated being told I needed to eat a sandwich. I’d go home in tears because of how people talked crap on my body. “Men don’t want to have sex with a girl that they can break.” How kind, right? I have managed to put on some weight since those days, but people still judge my body type. It’s like “What more do you want from me!?”

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  9. This post is so relevant in today’s day and age. Thanks for sharing it with us. I’m sorry for all those who had to experience body shaming, but your piece of advice to everyone is absolutely on point. One of our team’s bloggers has also experienced body shaming for being β€˜too thin’.
    I would request you to please read her post here and put in a kind word:
    We hope no one feels shamed or unconfident again! United we stand strong!

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