If you’ve read my previous post, you know the exciting news about me buying my first home. I’m not moved in yet. Hell, I haven’t even gone to settlement yet. This is all supposed to occur next month. However, I’ve already had a situation with the neighbor, which I’m going to vent and tell you all about.
I had to go to my home today for the inspection. (It went well and there’s no major issues). My mom came with me, and my realtor met us there, along with the inspector. As soon as we pulled up, we see a man coming out of the residence next door and onto my porch trying to look into my house. We both had a WTF reaction. My mom rolls the window down and says, “Can I help you? Are you looking for someone?” He said he saw someone go into the house and knows that nobody lives there, so he was checking it out. My mom mentions how I am buying the house and that it was the inspector who just went inside. That alone made me think this neighbor was intrusive and a little kooky.
He seemed rather chatty, and started telling us all about the neighborhood and the other neighbors. Apparently he’s already introduced himself to half the street, and he just moved in this past week. My mom noticed a vehicle parked on my gravel parking lot in the backyard and casually slipped that into the conversation. The neighbor mentioned that it was his vehicle. I’m a very passive person, and I hate that about myself. My mom, on the other hand, is more assertive. Therefore, she had no trouble bringing up the fact that the gravel parking belonged to me. Of course we don’t care if he parks there for the next month until I actually move in, but we did want him to be aware that it’s part of my property and not his.
That’s when he started getting really defensive. He claimed that his realtor told him that parking belonged to both his and my house, and he said he never would have bought his house if he knew that he wouldn’t have off-street parking. That’s when my realtor stepped in and said that she has the papers/property drawing that states that the parking belongs to my residence and is not considered part of his. He gets even more defensive. “Well, what am I supposed to do now? I’ve already bought this house and moved in! I’m not going to park on the street! My realtor said it was okay I park there!” He was basically saying those same things over and over. Also, one of the things he kept bringing up was how part of the parking does cross into his yard a little bit. However, it’s very little. Maybe several inches. Certainly not enough to fit a whole vehicle on without being on my side.
Idiot me says, “Well, maybe we can come to an agreement and allow one car on it.” Why did I ever say that? I know it’s probably going to come back and bite me in the ass because he’ll probably use that as an excuse as to why he can park there now. I did mention that maybe he should consider expanding the parking to go into his lot as well, but he basically shrugged off the idea. I’m just the type of person that absolutely hates confrontation. I avoid it at all costs and try to get it over with quickly if it does occur. I know that’s why that statement slipped out of my mouth.
Afterwards, I was just really angry over the whole thing. I still am. I’m angry at myself for allowing those stupid words to come out of my mouth, I’m angry at the neighbor for getting defensive at us when it was not our fault, and I’m angry at his realtor for giving him false information, if that really was the case. I understand why he’s upset because he bought the home thinking he would be able to use that parking. However, I also bought my home with the knowledge that I would have this extra parking just for my home (which would be perfect for my mom and I to share as well as when I have guests over), and with the knowledge that I would not have to share it with anyone. I asked my realtor to get a hold of his realtor (because he did give us her name), and hopefully this can be resolved somehow. But I really don’t know how they could resolve this now in a way that would make us both happy.
I went on several different realtor websites, and all of them list his residence as street parking and mine as street parking and gravel parking. Also, when the homes were listed as being for sale, mine included the gravel parking in the description, whereas his didn’t.
This is a photo of the gravel parking pad in question (taken on a different day), and it was taken behind my house. The neighbor is to the left of me.
All I know is that this ruined my excitement a little bit. The last thing I want is to have any kind of drama with my neighbor. I guess this is always the chance you take when buying a house though.
The featured image is a still from the 2004 remake of Dawn of the Dead. It’s of the opening sequence when the neighborhood was all in chaos. I love horror movies and thought that would be a good pic to use.