Five Faves on Friday #4: Books

This weeks Five Favorites on Friday is going to feature five of my favorite books that I really enjoyed reading.

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Go Ask Alice
This is my favorite book of all time. It takes place in the 1970’s, and is in the form of a diary. It documents a girl’s life as she experiments with drugs and runs away from home.

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Crank
Ellen Hopkins is one of my favorite authors, and I have a lot of her books. She writes in verse, so it takes some time to get used to, but her stories really end up sucking you in. Crank is the first of several books that follows character Kristina’s descent into Crystal Meth addiction. It was inspired by the author’s own daughter. “Glass” is the second book, which I also love, followed by “Fallout”.

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Burned
This is another book by Ellen Hopkins that I was really sucked into. It is the story of Pattyn, a teenager, who grew up in a strict Mormon household. She longs to break free and gain the freedom to become her own person. She goes to live with her Aunt, where she meets a boy named Ethan. They soon fall in love, but this relationship becomes a big problem when Pattyn’s father finds out about it. I won’t go into anymore detail, but I will say that this book is a sad one.

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Lucy in the Sky
This is basically a modernized version of Go Ask Alice. It’s also in diary format, and it takes place in modern day. While I definitely enjoyed Go Ask Alice more, I still really liked this book as well.

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The Hunger Games
I read this book before the movie was released, and I was super sucked into the story. Suzanne Collins has a good way of writing that makes it easy to follow the story and anticipate what’s going to happen next.

Downfall of Being Single

I know I wrote a post recently about why I love being single. It’s true, I really do. However, there is another side where I sometimes get really down on myself and feel like I’m going to be single forever. Maybe I will be, and maybe that’s not such a bad thing. I mean if I’m happy by myself, then why do I need to worry about bringing another person into the mix?

Sometimes I think it has to do with society and how it seems to be expected that you find someone to be with, and also how it seems like single people are looked down upon. Especially if you’ve reached a certain age and have not yet found someone to marry, have kids with, or just generally settle down with. Society also makes it seem like you’re a pathetic person if you’ve been single for years, like myself. I actually read an article once that basically looked down on people who stayed single for more than a year.

I’ll be 29 in a few months and I’ve gotten the many comments, such as, “Are you just going to be single forever?”, “When are you going to get out and meet someone?”, “Are you ever going to get married?”, “If you want to have kids, you need to find somebody soon.” Aside from those comments, I also get comments about how young I look for my age. Several of my family members were joking around recently when they said, “The reason you can’t find a boyfriend is because you look like you’re 14.” I know they didn’t mean anything hurtful by that, but it just adds to the internal struggle I face.

Love the Skin You’re In

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I’ve seen this going around on a few blogs, and blogger Kittyp0p has nominated anyone who’s interested to also participate.

The rules are to thank your tagger and link their blog, be truthful when answering the questions, and don’t judge others. Feel free to add any body positivity related questions, and nominate as many people as you can to spread the love and acceptance and self-worth/esteem boost.

One (or more) features you love about yourself:
My eyes. I have central heterochromia, so while the majority of my iris is blue, the pupil is outlined in a hazel color. I especially like the way they light up in the sunlight.

10 Reasons I Love Being Single

There are moments in life where I do wish to be in a relationship. Especially since I’m almost 29. I might want to start a family someday, and the longer I stay single, the less time is on my side. However, I am very happy being single. I’ve been single for the last three and a half years, and here are ten reasons why I love it.

1. Freedom
I have the ability to do whatever I want, whenever I want, without giving it a second thought. If I want to stay home the entire weekend in my pajamas I can, and I don’t need to take another person’s feelings into consideration or go places I don’t want to go just to appease them. I love my alone time, and that’s something I’m not ready to give up.

2. No compromising.
I don’t need to compromise with another person about what food place we want to go to or what movie to go see. I don’t really like having to sit through the latest action movie that I have absolutely no interest in when I could be doing something else with my time. I also don’t have to hang out with their friends where I might feel out of place.

3. Less drama.
I don’t have to deal with all the arguments that will take place. Let’s face it, even the best relationships aren’t perfect. There will always be disagreements, and that’s definitely something I like to live without.

4. Sleeping alone.
Most people will probably disagree with this one, but I absolutely hate sharing the bed. Even with someone I love. Everyone has their own sleep preferences, and sometimes they don’t mesh. For example, I dated someone who had to sleep with a sheet and comforter both, and had to sleep in the pitch black with no noise. Whereas, I only sleep with a comforter, I like a tiny bit of light to be in the room, and I also have to fall asleep with the TV on while watching one of my favorite shows or movies. Not only that, but I like to sleep in the middle of the bed, and I hate the sound of someone snoring or breathing heavy, or the feeling of them rolling around in bed. I definitely prefer to sleep alone.

5. Family functions and holiday’s.
I don’t have to worry about whose family we’re going to spend the holiday’s with or having to go to other awkward family functions with them. I can also spend time with my own family without worrying about what they think of my S.O.

6. More time for hobbies.
When you’re in a relationship, you have to give up a chunk of your spare time to spend with your significant other. Time is already limited. Being single means I have more time to spend on hobbies I enjoy, such as watching shows and movies, creating art, reading, etc.

7. One less person to buy presents for.
I kind of hate buying presents because it’s more money I have to spend, but I’m also worried about what to get the person and whether or not they will like it. The single life means I don’t have to stress over getting a S.O. a present on their birthday, Valentine’s Day, or Christmas.

8. I don’t have to impress anyone.
I don’t have to worry about trying to impress their family, and I don’t have to feel like I always need to look good. I can go months without shaving if I want to, go make-up free, and eat whatever foods I want (*cough* garlic and onions *cough*) without worrying about how bad my breath might smell because I’m not going to be kissing anybody. I also don’t have to worry about what they might think of my body.

9. No betrayal and heartbreak.
We all like to think that when we get into a relationship they might be the one. However, many people have to deal with getting cheated on or broken up with by the person they thought they would be with forever. I know what it feels like to experience this heartbreak, and it’s not something I want to go through ever again.

10. Self-love.
It feels good to have someone telling you how pretty and amazing you are, but self-love is the best kind of love. Being single is a reminder that you don’t need another person to tell you how awesome you are. It’s something you find within yourself.

Five Faves on Friday #3: Remakes

Since I did sequels last week, I thought it would be fun to list some of my favorite remakes this week.

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Dawn of the Dead
I actually very much prefer this remake to the original. The zombie makeup is more terrifying, and I like that the zombies can be fast moving, as opposed to moving slow. My favorite scene in the remake is during the beginning when things are just starting to happen. The little zombie girl was super creepy, and I like when Sarah Polley’s character escapes the house and then you see the complete chaos that is taking place all around.

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The Texas Chainsaw Massacre
This movie has a good cast. I like Jessica Biel and Eric Balfour in the leads. Everyone who was cast in the killer family was excellent too. Especially R. Lee Ermey. He’s brutal, terrifying, and absolutely perfect for this film. I actually found him to be scarier than Leatherface. I also love that the colors are desaturated in this movie. It just adds even more grittiness to the film.

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Halloween
Many people love Rob Zombie’s films, and there are many people who despise them. Halloween is probably the most controversial, since the original is a classic. Some people thought he butchered the movie and hated how he made Michael more human. Personally, I like that. The real monsters in this world are human, and it’s usually a combination of both nature and nurture that turns them into what they are. I really liked the look of Michael in this film. He’s huge, and the way he slams people around while killing them is brutal. I also like the dirty and torn look of his mask.

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The Last House on the Left
This is definitely one of those remakes that is very well done. Some people might find this movie difficult to watch though. This film is very violent, and not just in a gory way. It’s also psychologically terrifying, since events in this film can and do happen in real life. The rape scene is especially disturbing, but it plays a big part in the family wanting to get revenge on their daughters attackers.

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The Hitcher
This is a great psychological horror film. Even though I think this movie is really good, it’s not one I can watch very often because of how real and terrifying Sean Bean is as John Ryder. The way he mentally tortures his victims before killing them is quite scary. He was definitely perfect for the role. I’m also a huge fan of Sophia Bush, and I love her in this movie. I thought she was badass. One of the other things I like about this remake is how visually appealing it is. The colors and scenery are pretty, despite all the terrible things happening.

10 Red Flags of a Toxic Relationship

As someone who was once in a toxic relationship, I didn’t pay attention to the signs and just brushed everything off. It’s important for people to recognize the signs of an unhealthy relationship early on. These are all things I’ve went through myself, so I’m creating this list to help others know what to look out for.

1. They don’t make you a priority.
Relationships are a two way street. If you’re putting in a lot more effort than they are, that is not a good sign. We all need time to spend with our friends, but if they’re hanging out with their friends all the time and hardly making time for you, that’s not a balanced relationship.

2. They only visit you at night.
If you have trouble making plans with them during the day, but they always visit you at night when it’s time to crawl in the sheets, this is not a good sign. They’re likely using you for their own convenience.

3. You have to respond right away.
They will go hours without responding to your texts, but they freak out if you don’t answer your phone or reply back within a certain period of time.

4. They don’t like being told no.
If they want to have sex and you don’t, they get angry and maybe even berate you for it. Likewise, if they want you to perform a sexual act and you don’t want to do it, they try to coerce you into it.

5. They try to control you.
This could be a variety of things from what you wear, who you talk to, where you go, or what activities you participate in. They might give you an ultimatum by threatening to break up with you if you don’t do what they want.

6. They don’t buy you gifts.
Nobody says you have to be spoiled and bought things all the time, but gifts on birthday’s, holiday’s, and anniversary’s is generally something you do in a relationship. If they’re constantly spending money but can’t get you something for one of those special occasion’s, that shows your lack of importance to them.

7. They don’t like when you’re doing your own thing.
You’re spending time with your family or friends, and they call expecting you to drop what you’re doing and go do something with them. They get mad and start yelling at you because you won’t leave to be with them. This is even worse if it’s a special occasion, like a holiday, and they expect you to leave a family dinner just to hang with them.

8. They try to change you.
We are who we are, and our significant other should be okay with that. If they try to change who you are as a person, that is clearly not the person you want to be with. For example, if you’re an introvert like me and they think it needs “fixing”.

9. Your family and/or friends don’t like them.
Your family and friends can usually sense something bad about your significant other before you can. They usually end up being right, so it’s often a good idea to listen to them.

10. They are emotionally, physically, or sexually abusive.
This is a no brainer, but if your partner is constantly criticizing you, calling you names, forcing sexual acts on you, or physically laying their hands on you, you absolutely need to get out of this relationship. Abusers are smart and know how to manipulate people, so by the time things get to this point, they usually already have you sucked in. Once you’re sucked in, it’s harder for you to leave because you love them and think they’ll change. That’s why it’s important to pay attention to the earlier red flags I’ve mentioned.

Hopefully this list can be of help to someone. If you’ve ever been in a toxic or abusive relationship, feel free to share your story in the comments or mention any other red flags you can think of as well.

New goodies!

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I bought some new stuff from Ulta the other day, so I figured I would make a post and let you guys know my thoughts about each of these products.

Pacifica Salty Waves Spray
I’ve liked most Pacifica products that I’ve tried, so I was excited to try this. Unfortunately this spray doesn’t seem to do much of anything for me. The only good thing I can say about it is that it helps give your hair some volume so it isn’t laying so flat, and it doesn’t leave your hair feeling crunchy or gross. However, it did not give my hair waves of any kind. I tried this spray on damp hair and then blow drying, I tried it on dry hair, and I tried it on soaking wet hair and let it dry naturally without brushing. No matter what I did, my hair was still just as straight as it always is. If you’re wondering about the smell, it’s a very mild scent. I get a slight whiff of banana when I spray it on, but it’s hardly noticeable.

NYX BB Cream
This product is not new to me. I’ve been using it regularly for over a year now in place of foundation, and I love it. It moisturizes and feels much lighter on my face than foundation does. I also find that it works just as well to cover up blemishes and even out my skin tone.