Five Faves on Friday #8: Essential Oils

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Some people seem to think that roll-on essential oils are like perfumes. That is not the case. In fact, I really only smell the oils for a very short time after applying them, and then I can’t smell them anymore. They actually work by penetrating your skin. You apply them to pulse points, such as your wrist, temples, neck, and even the bottoms of your feet. Since pure essential oils are really strong and are not supposed to be put on your skin, they are diluted with a carrier oil (such as coconut oil), which you can rub on your skin. Your body then absorbs the natural oils which can have physical and mental benefits.

There are the skeptics who think that essential oils are pointless, but I personally like them and think they have benefited me by using them. Of course, they’re not a miracle cure by any means, but I think they can be helpful to an extent. Below are five of my favorite blends I like to use, all purchased from one of my favorite Etsy shops, Mythic Mist.

Five Faves on Friday #6: Wax Melts

I don’t know about you, but I’m a bit obsessed with wax melts. I’m constantly burning them, which makes my room smell amazing. This weeks Five Favorites on Friday will feature some of my favorite scents from one of my favorite shops on Etsy, House Warming Wax Melts. Not only are the scents amazing, but she decorates each of her wax melts, which makes them even more awesome. Plus, they’re super affordable at only $3.50 a pack. (The seller only ships within the United States though).

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Hippie Chick
This is an Earthy scent. The best way to describe it is that it smells similar to incense. I believe this one is my favorite out of all of them. The smell is incredibly calming for me.

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Scramblin’ Spiders
Despite the name and decoration, this is a very light scent. It reminds me of freshly washed laundry or being at a spa.

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Circus Magic
This wax melt is the perfect level of sweet without being too overbearing. It’s a perfect blend of cotton candy and apples.

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Coconut Rose
If you love the smell of coconut, and you love the smell of roses, then you will love this. It’s the perfect blend of both.

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Fruity Pebbles
This literally smells just like the cereal. If you’re a fruity pebbles fan, you will love it.

What It’s Like To Be An Only Child

As an only child, I would like to share some of my thoughts and experiences about what it has been like. It certainly has its advantages and disadvantages.

Pros:

  • I never had to deal with sibling rivalry growing up. I fought enough with my mother, so it was nice not having to worry about bickering with anyone else.
  • I never had to share my room, my clothes, or my toys with anyone else.
  • I never had to worry about who was the favorite among my parent’s because I was their one and only.
  • As the only one, my parents attention was always focused on me.
  • When I had sleepovers, my friends and I could enjoy ourselves without worrying about a sibling crashing the party.
  • I didn’t have to worry about competing with anyone growing up, whether it be grades or other achievements.
  • I got to have the house to myself a lot. As an introvert, the quiet alone time was very much appreciated.

Cons:

  • I don’t get to experience that special bond that many siblings seem to have.
  • I’ll never get to be an Aunt, unless I get married to someone with siblings. Even then, I won’t be biologically related.
  • I never had someone that could stick up for me, particularly when I was heavily bullied in school. My friends had abandoned me and joined the bullies, and I was on my own.
  • When my parents get sick, I will have the sole responsibility of taking care of them.
  • When my parents die, I don’t have siblings that I can lean on for support. Likewise, I’ll likely be left to pay for and plan funeral/burial arrangements.
  • I’m the only person who can give my mom a grandchild. Granted the decision to have children is solely up to me, but I know that she really wants to be a grandmother. I’m starting to worry it’s never going to happen, since I’m almost 29 and still single. I know I’ve still got time, but the thought that it might not be something that happens has crossed my mind. I had to see the sadness in my mother’s face when her fourth and final sibling announced that she was going to be a grandmother this year. My mom is the only one left, and it must be hard on her watching it happen for everyone else around her. It’s a big burden for me to carry just knowing that.
  • To this day, I still don’t like to share. I blame that on never having to share growing up. I’ve been called stingy more than once, and it’s true.
  • Some people think that if you’re an only child, you’re spoiled and have everything handed to you on a silver platter. That’s never been the case for me at all. Quite the contrary. In fact, one of the reasons my parents only had one child was because that was all they could afford.

Five Faves on Friday #4: Books

This weeks Five Favorites on Friday is going to feature five of my favorite books that I really enjoyed reading.

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Go Ask Alice
This is my favorite book of all time. It takes place in the 1970’s, and is in the form of a diary. It documents a girl’s life as she experiments with drugs and runs away from home.

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Crank
Ellen Hopkins is one of my favorite authors, and I have a lot of her books. She writes in verse, so it takes some time to get used to, but her stories really end up sucking you in. Crank is the first of several books that follows character Kristina’s descent into Crystal Meth addiction. It was inspired by the author’s own daughter. “Glass” is the second book, which I also love, followed by “Fallout”.

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Burned
This is another book by Ellen Hopkins that I was really sucked into. It is the story of Pattyn, a teenager, who grew up in a strict Mormon household. She longs to break free and gain the freedom to become her own person. She goes to live with her Aunt, where she meets a boy named Ethan. They soon fall in love, but this relationship becomes a big problem when Pattyn’s father finds out about it. I won’t go into anymore detail, but I will say that this book is a sad one.

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Lucy in the Sky
This is basically a modernized version of Go Ask Alice. It’s also in diary format, and it takes place in modern day. While I definitely enjoyed Go Ask Alice more, I still really liked this book as well.

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The Hunger Games
I read this book before the movie was released, and I was super sucked into the story. Suzanne Collins has a good way of writing that makes it easy to follow the story and anticipate what’s going to happen next.

10 Reasons I Love Being Single

There are moments in life where I do wish to be in a relationship. Especially since I’m almost 29. I might want to start a family someday, and the longer I stay single, the less time is on my side. However, I am very happy being single. I’ve been single for the last three and a half years, and here are ten reasons why I love it.

1. Freedom
I have the ability to do whatever I want, whenever I want, without giving it a second thought. If I want to stay home the entire weekend in my pajamas I can, and I don’t need to take another person’s feelings into consideration or go places I don’t want to go just to appease them. I love my alone time, and that’s something I’m not ready to give up.

2. No compromising.
I don’t need to compromise with another person about what food place we want to go to or what movie to go see. I don’t really like having to sit through the latest action movie that I have absolutely no interest in when I could be doing something else with my time. I also don’t have to hang out with their friends where I might feel out of place.

3. Less drama.
I don’t have to deal with all the arguments that will take place. Let’s face it, even the best relationships aren’t perfect. There will always be disagreements, and that’s definitely something I like to live without.

4. Sleeping alone.
Most people will probably disagree with this one, but I absolutely hate sharing the bed. Even with someone I love. Everyone has their own sleep preferences, and sometimes they don’t mesh. For example, I dated someone who had to sleep with a sheet and comforter both, and had to sleep in the pitch black with no noise. Whereas, I only sleep with a comforter, I like a tiny bit of light to be in the room, and I also have to fall asleep with the TV on while watching one of my favorite shows or movies. Not only that, but I like to sleep in the middle of the bed, and I hate the sound of someone snoring or breathing heavy, or the feeling of them rolling around in bed. I definitely prefer to sleep alone.

5. Family functions and holiday’s.
I don’t have to worry about whose family we’re going to spend the holiday’s with or having to go to other awkward family functions with them. I can also spend time with my own family without worrying about what they think of my S.O.

6. More time for hobbies.
When you’re in a relationship, you have to give up a chunk of your spare time to spend with your significant other. Time is already limited. Being single means I have more time to spend on hobbies I enjoy, such as watching shows and movies, creating art, reading, etc.

7. One less person to buy presents for.
I kind of hate buying presents because it’s more money I have to spend, but I’m also worried about what to get the person and whether or not they will like it. The single life means I don’t have to stress over getting a S.O. a present on their birthday, Valentine’s Day, or Christmas.

8. I don’t have to impress anyone.
I don’t have to worry about trying to impress their family, and I don’t have to feel like I always need to look good. I can go months without shaving if I want to, go make-up free, and eat whatever foods I want (*cough* garlic and onions *cough*) without worrying about how bad my breath might smell because I’m not going to be kissing anybody. I also don’t have to worry about what they might think of my body.

9. No betrayal and heartbreak.
We all like to think that when we get into a relationship they might be the one. However, many people have to deal with getting cheated on or broken up with by the person they thought they would be with forever. I know what it feels like to experience this heartbreak, and it’s not something I want to go through ever again.

10. Self-love.
It feels good to have someone telling you how pretty and amazing you are, but self-love is the best kind of love. Being single is a reminder that you don’t need another person to tell you how awesome you are. It’s something you find within yourself.

Five Faves on Friday #3: Remakes

Since I did sequels last week, I thought it would be fun to list some of my favorite remakes this week.

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Dawn of the Dead
I actually very much prefer this remake to the original. The zombie makeup is more terrifying, and I like that the zombies can be fast moving, as opposed to moving slow. My favorite scene in the remake is during the beginning when things are just starting to happen. The little zombie girl was super creepy, and I like when Sarah Polley’s character escapes the house and then you see the complete chaos that is taking place all around.

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The Texas Chainsaw Massacre
This movie has a good cast. I like Jessica Biel and Eric Balfour in the leads. Everyone who was cast in the killer family was excellent too. Especially R. Lee Ermey. He’s brutal, terrifying, and absolutely perfect for this film. I actually found him to be scarier than Leatherface. I also love that the colors are desaturated in this movie. It just adds even more grittiness to the film.

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Halloween
Many people love Rob Zombie’s films, and there are many people who despise them. Halloween is probably the most controversial, since the original is a classic. Some people thought he butchered the movie and hated how he made Michael more human. Personally, I like that. The real monsters in this world are human, and it’s usually a combination of both nature and nurture that turns them into what they are. I really liked the look of Michael in this film. He’s huge, and the way he slams people around while killing them is brutal. I also like the dirty and torn look of his mask.

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The Last House on the Left
This is definitely one of those remakes that is very well done. Some people might find this movie difficult to watch though. This film is very violent, and not just in a gory way. It’s also psychologically terrifying, since events in this film can and do happen in real life. The rape scene is especially disturbing, but it plays a big part in the family wanting to get revenge on their daughters attackers.

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The Hitcher
This is a great psychological horror film. Even though I think this movie is really good, it’s not one I can watch very often because of how real and terrifying Sean Bean is as John Ryder. The way he mentally tortures his victims before killing them is quite scary. He was definitely perfect for the role. I’m also a huge fan of Sophia Bush, and I love her in this movie. I thought she was badass. One of the other things I like about this remake is how visually appealing it is. The colors and scenery are pretty, despite all the terrible things happening.

10 Red Flags of a Toxic Relationship

As someone who was once in a toxic relationship, I didn’t pay attention to the signs and just brushed everything off. It’s important for people to recognize the signs of an unhealthy relationship early on. These are all things I’ve went through myself, so I’m creating this list to help others know what to look out for.

1. They don’t make you a priority.
Relationships are a two way street. If you’re putting in a lot more effort than they are, that is not a good sign. We all need time to spend with our friends, but if they’re hanging out with their friends all the time and hardly making time for you, that’s not a balanced relationship.

2. They only visit you at night.
If you have trouble making plans with them during the day, but they always visit you at night when it’s time to crawl in the sheets, this is not a good sign. They’re likely using you for their own convenience.

3. You have to respond right away.
They will go hours without responding to your texts, but they freak out if you don’t answer your phone or reply back within a certain period of time.

4. They don’t like being told no.
If they want to have sex and you don’t, they get angry and maybe even berate you for it. Likewise, if they want you to perform a sexual act and you don’t want to do it, they try to coerce you into it.

5. They try to control you.
This could be a variety of things from what you wear, who you talk to, where you go, or what activities you participate in. They might give you an ultimatum by threatening to break up with you if you don’t do what they want.

6. They don’t buy you gifts.
Nobody says you have to be spoiled and bought things all the time, but gifts on birthday’s, holiday’s, and anniversary’s is generally something you do in a relationship. If they’re constantly spending money but can’t get you something for one of those special occasion’s, that shows your lack of importance to them.

7. They don’t like when you’re doing your own thing.
You’re spending time with your family or friends, and they call expecting you to drop what you’re doing and go do something with them. They get mad and start yelling at you because you won’t leave to be with them. This is even worse if it’s a special occasion, like a holiday, and they expect you to leave a family dinner just to hang with them.

8. They try to change you.
We are who we are, and our significant other should be okay with that. If they try to change who you are as a person, that is clearly not the person you want to be with. For example, if you’re an introvert like me and they think it needs “fixing”.

9. Your family and/or friends don’t like them.
Your family and friends can usually sense something bad about your significant other before you can. They usually end up being right, so it’s often a good idea to listen to them.

10. They are emotionally, physically, or sexually abusive.
This is a no brainer, but if your partner is constantly criticizing you, calling you names, forcing sexual acts on you, or physically laying their hands on you, you absolutely need to get out of this relationship. Abusers are smart and know how to manipulate people, so by the time things get to this point, they usually already have you sucked in. Once you’re sucked in, it’s harder for you to leave because you love them and think they’ll change. That’s why it’s important to pay attention to the earlier red flags I’ve mentioned.

Hopefully this list can be of help to someone. If you’ve ever been in a toxic or abusive relationship, feel free to share your story in the comments or mention any other red flags you can think of as well.