Downfall of Being Single

I know I wrote a post recently about why I love being single. It’s true, I really do. However, there is another side where I sometimes get really down on myself and feel like I’m going to be single forever. Maybe I will be, and maybe that’s not such a bad thing. I mean if I’m happy by myself, then why do I need to worry about bringing another person into the mix?

Sometimes I think it has to do with society and how it seems to be expected that you find someone to be with, and also how it seems like single people are looked down upon. Especially if you’ve reached a certain age and have not yet found someone to marry, have kids with, or just generally settle down with. Society also makes it seem like you’re a pathetic person if you’ve been single for years, like myself. I actually read an article once that basically looked down on people who stayed single for more than a year.

I’ll be 29 in a few months and I’ve gotten the many comments, such as, “Are you just going to be single forever?”, “When are you going to get out and meet someone?”, “Are you ever going to get married?”, “If you want to have kids, you need to find somebody soon.” Aside from those comments, I also get comments about how young I look for my age. Several of my family members were joking around recently when they said, “The reason you can’t find a boyfriend is because you look like you’re 14.” I know they didn’t mean anything hurtful by that, but it just adds to the internal struggle I face.

10 Reasons I Love Being Single

There are moments in life where I do wish to be in a relationship. Especially since I’m almost 29. I might want to start a family someday, and the longer I stay single, the less time is on my side. However, I am very happy being single. I’ve been single for the last three and a half years, and here are ten reasons why I love it.

1. Freedom
I have the ability to do whatever I want, whenever I want, without giving it a second thought. If I want to stay home the entire weekend in my pajamas I can, and I don’t need to take another person’s feelings into consideration or go places I don’t want to go just to appease them. I love my alone time, and that’s something I’m not ready to give up.

2. No compromising.
I don’t need to compromise with another person about what food place we want to go to or what movie to go see. I don’t really like having to sit through the latest action movie that I have absolutely no interest in when I could be doing something else with my time. I also don’t have to hang out with their friends where I might feel out of place.

3. Less drama.
I don’t have to deal with all the arguments that will take place. Let’s face it, even the best relationships aren’t perfect. There will always be disagreements, and that’s definitely something I like to live without.

4. Sleeping alone.
Most people will probably disagree with this one, but I absolutely hate sharing the bed. Even with someone I love. Everyone has their own sleep preferences, and sometimes they don’t mesh. For example, I dated someone who had to sleep with a sheet and comforter both, and had to sleep in the pitch black with no noise. Whereas, I only sleep with a comforter, I like a tiny bit of light to be in the room, and I also have to fall asleep with the TV on while watching one of my favorite shows or movies. Not only that, but I like to sleep in the middle of the bed, and I hate the sound of someone snoring or breathing heavy, or the feeling of them rolling around in bed. I definitely prefer to sleep alone.

5. Family functions and holiday’s.
I don’t have to worry about whose family we’re going to spend the holiday’s with or having to go to other awkward family functions with them. I can also spend time with my own family without worrying about what they think of my S.O.

6. More time for hobbies.
When you’re in a relationship, you have to give up a chunk of your spare time to spend with your significant other. Time is already limited. Being single means I have more time to spend on hobbies I enjoy, such as watching shows and movies, creating art, reading, etc.

7. One less person to buy presents for.
I kind of hate buying presents because it’s more money I have to spend, but I’m also worried about what to get the person and whether or not they will like it. The single life means I don’t have to stress over getting a S.O. a present on their birthday, Valentine’s Day, or Christmas.

8. I don’t have to impress anyone.
I don’t have to worry about trying to impress their family, and I don’t have to feel like I always need to look good. I can go months without shaving if I want to, go make-up free, and eat whatever foods I want (*cough* garlic and onions *cough*) without worrying about how bad my breath might smell because I’m not going to be kissing anybody. I also don’t have to worry about what they might think of my body.

9. No betrayal and heartbreak.
We all like to think that when we get into a relationship they might be the one. However, many people have to deal with getting cheated on or broken up with by the person they thought they would be with forever. I know what it feels like to experience this heartbreak, and it’s not something I want to go through ever again.

10. Self-love.
It feels good to have someone telling you how pretty and amazing you are, but self-love is the best kind of love. Being single is a reminder that you don’t need another person to tell you how awesome you are. It’s something you find within yourself.